Is he my boyfriend?

I'm seeing this guy for over 2 months. We sleep at my place or his 2-3 times a week. I got flowers and invitations and we have a great time together. I feel more and more attached to him everyday. But we never spoke about what is going on. I dont know if it is only sex or he really likes me. He is very busy and the days we dont see each other is because he says he is involved with work or family. I was told not to pressure him and not to put him agaisnt the wall, but I need him to know how in love I am. For the new year's eve, he had plans with a friend putting me on second plan, I played my game and we will spend the eve together. I'm so confused if he really wants to be with me or just felt sorry I would be alone for the new year's eve. Is he my boyfriend? How should I talk about it with him without scaring him away? Seeing him 2-3 times a week is not enough for me anymore, I feel desperate to see him everyday, it's like I'm obcessed about him. Help me!!!

Is he my boyfriend?
I think you need to ask him at least if you're exclusive. Tell him how you feel about him. If he runs then at least you'll know where you stand. It's better to find out now than when it's a year or two down the road.
Reply:..sometimes.....if you are not always there, they will wonder where YOU are....
Reply:Go to his house and knock on his front door whenever you fell like it, talk to him about your problem in a calm way with no drama. And if he doesn't respect you talking like that, tell him that you just came to his house to talk about this.


Best of luck! =]
Reply:talk with him. the only way you'll know whats going on is from him
Reply:Have you met his best friends? If not, you are not his girlfriend.





If you want to find out exactly how he feels, next time you go out with him, introduce him to someone as your boyfriend and watch his face. If he is shocked or annoyed, he is not your boyfriend.
Reply:Well someone once told me that if you have a emothinoal understanding between the to of you then you are dating. you dont even have to talk about dating...you are!!!!
Reply:If he gets scared away with a simple straightforward question, he is not the one. Respect and love yourself first and foremost and he, or anyone with a brain cell or two in their head will see your strength and qualities.... and want to spend all their time with you.





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I hope this helps...Good luck
Reply:i think that he is using you..if he wanted to be in a relationship with you, he would've mentioned something or asked u out already
Reply:1_well ........ it is not a problem if one time he has to go with his friend ,i meen.......he sleeps with you 3 times a week .......the man wants to rest .





2_if he ignores you a lot (for a month).......that meens he used you and he does not love you ..........which meens he used you for sex .
Reply:It is what it is. If you push to move the pace up a bit you might push him out of the relationship.





why are you in such a hurry? dont you have your own life?
Reply:he is not your boyfriend. and you don't talk to him about it. nobody has that much family or that much work to ignore a new love interest. NO ONE! he's just not that into you. that's all. get out and about. make yourself available to someone who wants to spend 24 hours a day 7 days a week with you.
Reply:sex is all it is for him
Reply:Years ago I lost a relationship that I still think about today; and I mean 15 years ago. He wanted a little more space than I wasn't patient enough to give it. He was really in love with me (so I found out when it was too late) but he was scared because he had beened burned really bad in the only other relationship he had ever had. No matter what is going on with him right now you will find out sooner or later. If it is later, patience is worth it. If it turns out that you are 2nd fiddle to someone else than he isn't worth it anyway. Many men feel smothered very easily. Women aren't like that because we feel so much emotion (or at least think so in the beginning phase). Don't pressure him since he has made it clear that he doesn't want to be pressured. That will only push him away. I wouldn't let him know how much you love him until you both are ready to talk. Let him know that you are there to listen to him and no matter what the outcome is. He will respect you more for that. The only way to talk to him without scaring him away is too actually "talk and listen" with him. Make sure he knows that this is not for you but him too. Give him an out if he needs it. You can't make someone love you after all. Just be very mature about it and don't get defensive. Listening is Key and being able to hear the Truth is just as important.





Good Luck - (and trust me - he wouldn't give up New Year's Eve to be with someone he didn't care about) It sounds like he just isn't ready for something heavy. Maybe he did get hurt really bad in a previous relationship.





Enjoy the Eve together. It can be magical.
Reply:sounds like he is just using you for sex on the side. he's continue to use you as long as you let him.





if you are in second place and if he doesn't want to bring you into his 1st tier life and have you hang out with his friends, then you're not a girlfriend. you're just a little secret on the side..





the fact that he hasn't even suggested the idea of love or a relationship, well, that's a sign he isn't intereted in commitment.





you should probably move on and find a guy that isn't ashamed to tell the whole world the he loves you and wants to be with you forever..



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